Before you fly
- Always ring the airline at least 48 hours in advance to confirm your booking details are correct. Things to check include;
- Seating arrangements – if you are not specially requesting the bassinet seat, confirm they have not moved your seat allocations; check how full the flight is to see if a spare seat strategy will work (see Planning flights for my suggested seating ideas)
- Ensure all meals are appropriately selected
- Confirm your luggage allowances, including baby equipment
- Add any passport details and frequent flyer numbers – much easier to do in advance than retrospect
- Plan you car seat arrangements; if you will need your car seats for the flight or destination, not a problem to travel with them to the airport as well, but if they are only needed for home to departure airport, make inquiries as to transport services that can provide infant and toddler car seats for you, or will store your seat until your return. (See more on car seats and safety concerns on The Equipment page).
- Check what facilities are at the airport prior to departure. A lot of international hub airports now have great facilities for children to run around or be entertained before their flight (See Guide to airline and airports). The children’s entertainment may however not be in your flight terminal or anywhere near your gate, factor this in to timings.
- Check everyone has a valid passport, correct Visa and print out of airline tickets and pack these somewhere easily accessible in your carry on.
- If staying at a hotel or renting accommodation, confirm your sleeping arrangements and arrival time with them, including any airport collection/car services (even if this costs slightly more than a local taxi it may well be worth the effort to book in advance).
- Even though the airline will tag everything, always tag all of your luggage yourself with a contact phone number and email address, including extra baby equipment and children’s back packs – these are the most likely items to go missing!
- I would also recommend photographing things like baby equipment prior to your flight to evidence condition of items that can be susceptible to damage if not handled carefully.
- Depending on the time of day your flight leaves, schedule in some good exhausting activities beforehand or a good night’s sleep.
Getting to the airport
- Try and find a way you can be dropped as close as possible to the airport door and utilize porter services if there is more than you can carry – it might seem pricey for a short trip from the door to the check in but in my mind is money well spent, particularly if you are travelling as a single parent or have more children than adults.
- If taking your own car and parking long-term, it may be worth getting the luggage and children (with an adult of course!) dropped at the terminal first then dealing with the car as lugging your items on the free transit bus can be incredibly challenging.
- Better yet, have a friend drop you at the airport, or book a door-to-door car service (see car seat considerations above).
Getting through the airport
- Remember everything will take longer. I used to be a ‘just in time’ flyer but this is a highly risky strategy with kids in tow; I would always suggest using the recommended three hours for an international flight and an hour for domestic.
- Allow more time at check-in. The earlier you get there, the more chance you will get your preferred seating, even if you weren’t able to book this in advance. No matter how well prepared we have been it almost always seems to take 15-20 minutes to check us in as a group of four, before adding queuing time.
- Bulky items often need to be shrink wrapped and checked in at a separate over-sized item counter, allow for this in your flight timings.
- Plan your baby equipment needs in advance; its stressful enough trying to get your bags checked in, know your luggage allowances in advance and how you will transport everything after check in. I highly recommend taking a sling even if you have a stroller in case the child is sleeping or you have a delay in collecting your stroller at the other end. Having a stroller with you until the gate is also great for hanging bags on leaving your hands free to do other things. See The Equipment for more recommendations.
- If you are gambling on the spare seat strategy, be prepared that the spare seat may well be taken by the time you get to the gate and things like child seats will need to be checked at the gate.
- By all means shop in duty-free at your peril; to me this is like running the gauntlet of breakable items, dealing with pleading requests to buy chocolates or crappy over priced souvenirs. This might help kill some time for slightly older travelers but with infants steer clear.
- Check your eligibility for lounge access. Often the best child-friendly facilities are hidden inside the airline lounges, but don’t be mistaken that you have to be on a business class ticket to use these facilities. See Guide to airline and airports where I have suggested a few other ways you can access these facilities if not travelling on a business ticket.
- If all else fails, try to find a gate that is not being used so there is somewhere for the kids to run or crawl around, preferably where they can view the planes – I remember a Miss Two gleefully shouting about planes for about an hour solid, and now young Master has just turned two he seems equally fascinated.
Dealing with security
- The key to getting through this hurdle is to be organized; while you are in the queue try to get as many items as possible into bags, any accessories removed from children, electronics out of pockets, liquids kept separate.
- Not all airports make you take your shoes off these days, but why risk it? I always try to dress them in easy to slip on and off shoes, which will speed up the security process and also help with quick trips to the bathroom on the plane.
- Some airports are still quite stringent on liquids. It pays to do your research in advance on what liquid limits are at the airport(s) you are going through, especially for infant milk or formula which has separate limits to toiletries and other liquids. Be prepared that they may ask you taste the milk, or dispose of some if you are over the limit.
- Reassure children that there’s nothing to be scared about, try to make it fun saying goodbye to shoes and teddies as they go through the x-ray machine.
- Most airports will require strollers to be fold-able and go through the x-ray machine as well, no mercy will be shown for the sleeping infant, so get everything else prepared first then take the infant out last.
- The most extreme request I have had is to remove a babies pacifier while walking through security – I was understandably furious at the time but have long since learnt to accept not to argue, they are just doing their job and following instructions, no matter how ridiculous the concept seems to us feeble parents.
- Make sure children don’t do anything ‘funny’ like making bomb threats; no matter how cute they might think they are I am pretty sure security staff will not feel the same way and you could do without any delays or fines for innocent jokes.
Boarding the plane
- Most airlines will offer priority boarding to families, but remember this process this can start at least 45 minutes before the flight is due to take off, you may actually prefer the kids to wait around as long as possible at the boarding gate before boarding.
- We have gotten away on many occasions with just coming to the front of the queue when ready; nobody tends to argue when they see you swamped with bags, half sleepy toddlers and pregnant bellies; they are too busy praying you are not sitting anywhere near them to really care that you have queue jumped.
- Another strategy is to send one parent in advance with all the bags to do the pre-board and set everything up ready in your row while the other continues to exhaust the kids running around at the gate (make sure you keep the correct boarding passes and passports with you if choosing this tactic!)
- Your child needs to understand the importance of wearing a seat belt; I always try to leave strapping them in until the last-minute to avoid them getting bored and immediately jumping out of their restraint, or as usually happens with Master 2, inconsolable screaming throughout the whole taking off process. It will help if you have discussed and perhaps practiced this at home first (see Preparing children for flying), but I hate to admit this is one part of the process I simply haven’t managed to concur tear-free as yet!